1. People can change
Unfortunately, as humans we can hold grudges against one another. Perhaps someone spoke unkind words over you, did something directly to cause you pain, or maybe someone indirectly hurt you with their actions and the thought of it still affects you, makes you feel deeply hurt and you just can’t seem to let go of it.
This is something I have been experiencing for a while now and I’ve felt quite burdened with it. After a long time of crying about it, yelling about it and head-poundingly aching over it, I’m done with the thoughts and anger that I’ve been harboring.
I’m learning that people can change. That person might not be in your life anymore, or maybe they are, but remembering something they did months or years ago then judging and being angry at them for those actions isn’t going to do your mind or heart much good. Embrace the idea that in the present day, they are a new and different person. (That works quite well if that person is not present in your life anymore. It makes you feel at peace that they might be a nicer person and helps you feel okay about seeing them in street. You then might not consider running away from them or slapping them with a fish if you ever find yourself bumping into them.) If that person is still in your life, I pray that they are actively showing you that they are new and different and that they are no longer doing the things to you that cause you to hold a grudge.
We all have to live among each other and we all mess up sometimes. It’s a shame that we can feel hurt by someone and perhaps they were going through a stage in their life where they had to cause others pain, so that they could learn from it and then become a better person now. Lean on that truth.
2. You have more time than you think (Careers-wise)
I’ve put a lot of pressure on myself this year to sort out my long-term career. Obstacles came in the way of it, and to cut a long story short, I’m no longer doing teacher training in September. I beat myself up about it initially, but actually, I do have so much time to sort out what I want to do.
Going through the learning curve that I have this year, I’ve realised that being a teacher wasn’t the right thing for me at the moment, and that’s okay. I’ve come to the conclusion that as long as I have a job where I feel secure and have good people around me (which I currently do!), then that’s all that matters. The right thing will come at the right time.
3. Be honest with those you trust about how you’re feeling
Things can make us really sad. We’re humans, we have emotions, we all feel insecure, we all have our struggles. Sometimes, we can feel temped to keep it in and get on with things (which is totally cool). However, if you’re like me, sometimes these things can make me feel like I want to explode. So, what I’ve found to help is to tearfully smile and admit to my friends and family about how I’m feeling. If you choose to do this too, (it helps!) then those around you might also feel comforted that you were honest and open as they might have been going through the same issues. Advice, hugs and cake with those you love helps massively and knowing that they understand the page you’re on might just help you finish the chapter that you’re struggling to complete.
Reader, I hope that these things have spoken to you in some way. Obviously everyone’s lives are different and so these things might not resonate with you, or you might have even learnt these lessons yonks ago, but I hope that any words that I’ve shared here might also help someone else somewhere. 🙂