“You Can Cry About It or You Can Dance About It!”

I’ve been in a silly mindset recently. Wishing that life wasn’t so tough. Wishing it would be easier. Wishing that things in the past in loved ones lives hadn’t happened. I’d get desperately sad and then wonder where my once positive glow had disappeared to.

I’ve been stuck in a negative mindset for far too long. It’s time to change that. I need to start appreciating my life for what it is.

How is this done?

I shall get my Hakuna Matata on.how-well-do-you-know-the-lyrics-to-hakuna-matata-2-8470-1448307090-7_dblbig

Ladies and gents, to get out of negative mindsets, you must make the effort to change your mind and routine to find the fun and to communicate with those around you. This is what I’m learning.

So, from what I’ve learnt recently, here’s my advice on how to kick yourself up the bum and to get ‘you’ back:

  1. See yourself through a loved ones eyes 
    – Ask a loved one to tell you what they see in you when they look at you. Then, try to imagine the positive impact you’ve had on them. You’ll start to understand why you’re loved and the good you do each day to those around you.
  2. Be honest with yourself about how you’re feeling and why
    – It’ll be hard, but write down why you think you’re sad. Really spell it out. You need to be honest with yourself. Then, once you’ve cried and spluttered, write down a list of things that make everything okay. You must write it straight away – you’ll find that you remember those positive things more.
  3. Be honest with those around you
    – Get your Toy Story fam around you. You need to tell your friends and family what’s going on. You’ll find that you will get texts, calls and post that will make your day just that little bit more great. God created a sense of ‘community’ for a reason – your team are there to help you.
  • Direct your thoughts to a more positive view
  • Do things you love
  • See the beauty in everything
  • Smile.
  • Need a video to further your positive mindset? Watch this Pep Talk by Kid President

Remember, Buzz Lightyear had a meltdown. He thought he was Mrs Nesbitt for a bit. But he got out of his negative mindset. And became even more awesome. Everything will be okay. 🙂maxresdefault (1)

Seek the joy.   

“Just keep swimming.”

Situations in the past can’t be changed. What can be changed is how you behave in the future.

Rejoice at the beauty.

To quote Kid President, “You can cry about it, or dance about it.”



Shall I Stop Celebrating? No.

I’ve recently been criticized for how I portray my life on social media.

One main point was about how I post about my boyfriend. I was told that I might make other people who don’t have good relationships, or a boyfriend at all, feel crap about their life.

In my opinion, for this to be said to me is utter guff. Unfollow me if it upsets you. I didn’t have a boyfriend until I was 21. I didn’t get sad about my friends being in relationships with people they were happy with. I was happy seeing pictures of them in my news feed. I just knew that the right man wasn’t in my life at the time, so I was happy being happy for them!

So, shall I stop being positive on social media and stop sharing my joy with my friends?

No. No I will not.

I am currently going through some anxiety issues and life inside my mind isn’t all wonderful and joyful. I cry a lot. And no, I don’t put these moments on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter, because I don’t want to. Simple. That would make me feel even more sad by dwelling upon it further.

Instead, when something makes me happy or great things happen, I will post about it to my friends and I will celebrate the person or the situation.

So, if you’re bothered by me trying to update y’all about my life/relationship/the joys/the fun pictures or whatever, then please remove me from your newsfeed or unfollow me or delete me. I’d hate to fuel your insecurity. I’m just not going to post things about how tired I am, or how sad I’m feeling about something, or a selfie of me doing a really strenuous poo. I just won’t. Sorrrrry.

My true friends are the ones who message me and want to meet my boyfriend and who celebrate the joys and console me in my lows.

Thank you for listening.

Happy new day.